Are you Normal??

Hey you… yea... I’m talking to you.. Are you normal? That doesn’t mean that you are insane. Just that is your life normal?? So the next question is, are you happy? With all that happening in your life? Are you? If yes, then the next thing you should do is stop reading this. If you are not, then you may continue. Still I cannot guarantee that the following will make sense to you. May be you can relate yourself to this. May be not.

Are you continuing?? So yea.. That means you are down with something. I don’t know what it is. But it’s common. Any average normal human, being down is very natural. There is nothing unusual in it. I don’t know what it is. From small things to big problems that eat your brain. Again the intensity of the problem differs from person to person. Depends upon how we take it and how we handle it. So relax. It’s very natural to have problems. But let me tell you. You are truly blessed. You have almost all that you want in your life. A loving family, caring friends, good career everything and above all a good heart which didn’t hurt anybody intentionally. exceptions are there and its again common. So chill.

You had many ups and downs. Many. So is the case with all human beings. Everybody has ups and downs. We always think that we are the most roughly stuck with problems. We think that we are the worse affected in this world. At times we ask ourselves, why did this happen to me, I didn’t do anything much to suffer like this. At times we look into the mirror and ask- do I deserve this? We think that this is the biggest and the worse that one can ever go through. We think that this is the worst phase of my life, but my dear friend, let me tell you, all these are part and parcel of life. Life is composed of all these. It is not just this phase, but many phases.

When our first true love crashed, then we thought I will never be able to love anybody else in my life here after. In case we were even doubtful on if I would be capable of loving somebody as I did. When our friends left us for no reason, we thought never trust anybody. When someone whom you trust and care a lot backstabs, you inculcated this statement in yourself that hereafter I will never trust anybody. All are same and all are selfish. When you had issues with your parents with respect to many issues and how to go about it, u thought your parents are so adamant. They don’t think from my side. And you lost hope and ended up doing something else. When you get into this particular institute where u wanted to get through really badly and finally when you are there and when you realize that this is not something which I’m looking forward to, again you are depressed. You feel like I really wanna get out of this place and do something else. Or if it is with the job which was very happening and exciting in the beginning, but then it gradually slips out of track. All that it does is gives you just the salary, but no satisfaction and you finally end up with a routine mechanic life where you find no meaning for yourselves and life.

Life is capable of doing a lot to you. It is this mixture of bliss and grief, ups and downs, positives and negatives, cheer and tears, celebrations and tragedies, happiness and depression all together and you call it life. What else you expect? It is true that everything depends upon what we do. It is true. Most of the things in life depend on what we do. We are the one who invite everything. It is up to us to decide what we want. If you stop loving people because your first love was a miserable disaster, dear you are missing beautiful things in your life. Never be afraid to fall in love again. May be the next one whom you fall for may help you to realize the true meaning of love. May be he or she will make you realize what is the true sense of love and pain. If you refuse yourself to fall for somebody, just because that person left us for whom we meant nothing, you will miss that fortune to feel it. Never do that. But make sure that it happens rare and not always. Otherwise it will be a mess.

If you stop trusting those around you just because the so called ‘friend’ of yours broke your trust, you are being unjust to yourself. You should give others chance. That person may turn up to be the closest of your life. You never know. So at times be brave to take chances. If you think that your parents are adamant and are incapable of taking things in the way you want, I’m sorry my friend. Here you should be able to think from their side. At the end of the day, even if you are not obliged to anybody, you owe big time to your parents. It’s your parents who supported you all these while. Nobody can forgive you to that extent like your parents did. Nobody can trust you like your parents do. Because it is truly unconditional love. The care of your mom and the support of your dad and their love are good enough to put you in motion. That blessing will do for your life. But it’s true that our parents fail to understand us at times and what we are actually looking forward to. For this you have to talk to them and convince them. Instead if you just stay rude and adamant, it is never gonna help you buddy. Their tears will always haunt you. Whatever you achieve in your life, if you cannot keep your parents happy, then its incomplete.

And your career and job. There will be some reason for you to get into that particular institute or job. Whatever it is, you wanted to get through those places for those reasons. You should realize that smoke comes only if there is fire. If you had those reasons before joining there, then the institute or your job is capable of doing that. May be it was capable of and now it is not. So what? Now you are in that place where many couldn’t though they also equally wished to end up in the same place. Explore the good things you have which is hidden somewhere and leave the place when it is time. So that when you turn back you should not feel that I learnt nothing but something which is worth enough of. And then try something else. There will be something which will give you the spark. And this spark would be capable to burn your aspirations and now you know what you want and you will achieve it. All you have to do is never give up but keep on trying. And yes. There is something called fate. Here you cannot help yourself but to believe that it’s your destiny. But again our actions contribute greatly to it.

And still you think that you have the worst? Now look down. Look down to those people who does things from the given circumstances they have. There are many who don’t have their parents, a shoulder to depend on, a bunch of friends to support, ended up in average places because of the less opportunities, and those who are physically disabled, those who are mentally unstable, those who are financially shattered and on those who don’t have anything to look forward to in their life but a day’s meal. And now you sit back and look at your misery and bang your head on wall. Seriously? Then what are you doing in your life??

So this is it. It’s not gonna be easy. It’s a hard journey. Keep travelling. Many comes and many leaves. But in this life everything changes but you have to move on. Nobody can help you but only you. Trust yourself with whatever you do. Make right decisions at right time. And believe in yourself. Never give up hope. Count your blessings and stop grieving on your miseries. There are worse happening around you. So smile. You have to keep on walking till you see the light at the end of the tunnel. At the end of the day you know that all these are for nothing. Everything happens for a reason. Whatever happens, life must move on.